Change of Directions: “I Don’t Care” Attitudes

Alright people, so I started this off as a blog about fashion and my life and what not but I’ve decided to take it in a completely different direction to address a serious issue that is continuing to happen every day in our society. What is it you wonder?

Dating.

Yes folks…dating has truly become a battlefield and I can honestly say that I didn’t believe that until my last break-up which happened just a few days ago. It’s a good thing Pat Benatar has already jumped on the “Love is a Battlefield” franchise because I could’ve for sure had a hit if she hadn’t.

Now at this point most of you think I’m just gonna go off on a rant about how much my ex sucked and was a jerk to me but honestly I just want to address a serious issue that is plaguing America (even more than obesity and diabetes apparently).

Recently, it has become socially acceptable to adopt the “I don’t care” attitude in relationships. What does that mean? Well, speaking from experience, it means that whoever cares less in a relationship “wins”. What is this grand prize do you ask? Well, I’m not a 100% sure because I never win… Men have continuously reinforced to women that the best way to win a guys heart is to not care and to act nonchalant about everything, letting the guy “do his thing”. When you have a good girl that honestly cares about you and wants to see you and hang out with you, not a bad time for you to positively reinforce her desires gentlemen.

One of my best friends truly addressed one of the biggest issues this creates: insecurities. You have to feel secure in a relationship in order for it to truly blossom and be healthy. However, this whole “I don’t care” attitude is starting to develop a lot of girls with a lot of securities about “what’s wrong with them” and “why can’t [they] just find a nice guy”. STOP. It’s not you! ANY girl in her right mind would feel insecure about a guy acting indifferent around her.

This nonchalant attitude is creating a lot of issues with the way people view relationships. Relationships were designed so that the people in them care about one another. So, if a guy is sending you the “I don’t care” vibe, just go ahead a drop him. If he doesn’t do anything when that happens, then he’s definitely not worth your time and will most likely end up alone anyways (unless he’s Joseph Gordon-Levitt…who let’s be honest would bake you a cake and stand outside your house with a boom box playing your favorite love songs).

Ladies, respect yourself before anything. If a guy isn’t treating you the way you want him to, do NOT put up with it. I don’t care how cute or how sweet he can be, don’t do it! No girl should degrade herself to this “I don’t care” attitude in order to attract or keep a guy. The right guy will care about you, will want to make plans with you, and will most certainly make sure that you know because he won’t want to lose you. If he isn’t the right guy…we’ll you’ve got one less problem without him (shameless Ariana Grande reference-see below).

 

Song of the Day: Problem by Ariana Grande feat. Iggy Azalea

 

 

Spotlight: Greg

I am a HUGE fan of men’s clothes. I probably love men’s clothes more than I do women’s and if I could’ve done my slave days at some other retail store, it would Nordstrom’s men’s department.

One of my best friends in the entire world has the best sense of fashion for a male (and I’m not just saying that because I am extremely biased…he really does). Where does he get his amazing sense of fashion? Well that is still to be determined but he’s definitely got it. He is definitely a risk taker and some of his favorite stores include H&M, Urban Outfitters, Zara, and many many more.

Greg is definitely not afraid to put his style out there and try something new. Plaids and stripes are definitely his friends and make beaucoup appearances in his wardrobe. He’s not afraid of a little color, which he doesn’t just limit to his shirt and his color pants are probably his signature wardrobe choice. I applaud him for constantly channeling his inner hipster and letting it show in his wardrobe even in the slightest details.

My absolute favorite aspect about his style choices? Definitely his use of layering. He is a HUGE fan of scarves, sweaters, jackets, hats, etc. He has one of THE best fall/winter wardrobes of just about anyone and isn’t sacrificing his wallet to get his look. Needless to say when he went to study abroad in Europe this past year, he completely rocked the European look pretty much effortlessly (which is surprisingly not as easy as it may look, especially for girls).

Let’s all wish him luck on his upcoming marathon! (Surely to be the most stylish runner there) From casual outings to up-and-coming intern, this guy is all about taking risks and putting his style out there. Yay Greg!!!

Miami vs. Oklahoma

I’ve lived in Miami for my entire life, constantly surrounded by fashion forward people and people who are willing to just try anything (and I mean anything) new. From crazy fur vests in this scorching summer heat to some old guy on South Beach wearing the banana hammock from Borat (really not kidding about that one and had I not been so incredibly disgusted I would’ve taken pictures).

It’s easy to get lost in a world of vibrant colors, wacky patterns and people constantly making bold statements with their outfits. Moving to a place like Oklahoma for college was a HUGE adjustment for me in more ways than one. The hardest adjustment was figuring out that I really didn’t need to dress like I did in Miami at all. Oklahoma is the the land of the jeans, nike shorts and tshirts (all. year. round.).

When a girl’s closet begins to look like this its time to wonder if she works out too much or needs to expand their wardrobe choices. As much as I applaud the people who can just roll out of bed and walk confidently into class in their Captain America pajama pants, I am not one of those people. I am all for comfort, especially being from Miami where sometimes you’re never really sure where you’re day is going to take you. This is where jeans become my best friends because they can not only be dressed down, but I love dressing them up with a pair of heels and some awesome new jewelry.

As much as patterns usually scare me, seeing some of the more out there choices people from Miami make, allow it to be a lot easier making a decision about this cute top. Basically what I’m saying is, don’t be afraid to get outside your comfort zone, try new patterns, new vibrant colors, chunky jewelry, or whatever else might be calling your name. Who knows? You might just find your new favorite item.

Throwin’ It Back (not just for Thursdays)

So this past winter I expected the warm tropical climate to encapsulate my break as I returned home from college and so I packed accordingly. However, I was thrown quite the curveball when I was told that I would be visiting our nation’s capital. As much as I adore winter clothes, living in Miami I really have no use for them, so my warmest pair of shoes consisted of a pair of ballet flats. After much scavenging through all of the closets in my house, my options were narrowed down to a bunch of lavish fur coats (not exactly ideal for running around the National Mall) or a few lighter trenches I apparently kept “in case of an emergency”. As my dad pulled out his giant Mickey Mouse coat and insisted I was going to freeze with just those coats, I assured him that I would much rather freeze than rep Mickey around Washington, which I had no intention of doing either of those anyways.

Although it seemed like I packed about a month’s worth of clothes, I thought that layering was the perfect way to still make use of my lighter jackets without having to sacrifice my warmth (or my dignity…sorry Mickey). Coming from Miami, where a lot of walking doesn’t occur, it was so foreign to me to walk practically all over DC to get where I wanted to go and breaking in my new pair of Steve Madden’s Troopa did not work to my best advantage. Although my feet were killing me after the end of the first day, I have to say I was incredibly warm and awesomely dressed (all of the security guards at the Smithsonian’s and the Capitol agreed). I think the best part about these coats are the incredible amount of pocket’s you could stuff full, which was incredibly convenient going through all the security at each museum, it was nice to get to jump into the “no bag” lane for once in my life. All in all it was a great trip with some equally great outfits that were perfect for every occasion in DC.

Women + Clothes = happiness?

So dawns the old age question: what is it with women and clothes? Well ladies, let’s just face it…we ARE our clothes. Women are CONSTANTLY looking for ways to reinvent themselves and what better way to do it than the way you dress?

For as long as I can remember I was the epitome of  a “plain Jane”. My favorite color is blue so if you saw me in anything else other than that color for the better part of my adolescence, it was a special occasion or someone I liked was probably near you. I thought tshirts and jeans were my best friends and considered a “classic” look, which they can be don’t get me wrong, but not the way I was doing them.

I reached the part of my life (I’m 21 next week…yikes!) that my grandmother incessantly reminds me is “where you figure out who you are and what you’re doing”. The past year has been the craziest roller coaster I’ve ever been on, with tons of ups and downs and got so wrapped up in everything that was going on around me that I almost forgot to take care of me and keep me up to date with everything that was happening! So this summer I’m trying something new.

Since I honestly feel like I am beginning to discover myself (or at least the person I think I want to be…at least for a little while), I thought that my clothes should be a perfect reflection of my newfound self. I have a new love for clothes and am constantly looking for new reasons to run to the mall and see what’s new or what I didn’t see before. I love the way I dress now and truly feel confident and am not trying to hide behind my jeans and tshirts anymore. The way you dress tells people who you are before you even have to open your mouth, so give them a mouthful.